Running Head: Transracial Adoption

 

 

 

 

 

Transracial Adoption:

 Adoption Issues and Family Uniform Identity

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Submitted to:  Barbara Bland

By Lindsay R. Neumann

May 2, 2003

 


Abstract

This paper discussed transracial adoption and the issues surrounding it.  First it looked at the history of transracial adoption and the current laws concerning transracial adoption.  It takes a close look at what issues have arisen with transracial adoption, and how these issues have been dealt with.  Two families were interviewed for this paper.  Their responses were used to explore their unique journeys through adoption, and formation of family uniform identity.  This paper concluded that transracial adoption is a good thing for all people involved. 


 
Introduction

In every form of adoption there are various issues that arise within the adoptive family.  These issues include with emotional needs, physical needs, behavioral problems, and parent-child attachment.  With transracial adoption there is a whole new set of issues that are present.  These issues deal with race, culture, racial identity, dealing with racism and prejudice.  How a family reacts to these issues is important in the creation of their family.  These added issues amplify the complications involved in creating a uniform identity among the family members.  This identity is what each member of the family refers to in defining their part in the family.  It is how these children and parents know that they belong to one another.  Having this uniform identity allows the family to face society as a single family unit.

The researcher has had first hand experience in the adoption process and has also experienced racial the racial issues that arise in transracial adoption because she is a member of a transracially adoptive family.  She is the birth daughter, and the eldest of a family of ten children.  Seven children were adopted into her family, all of them transracially.  As a result she has been through the process of family identity change.

Definitions

Transracial or Transcultural Adoption – an adoption that takes place where parents are of another racial or ethnic background then the children they are adopting

In-racial or Same-race Adoption – an adoption in which the parents and children are of the same racial and ethnic background

Cultural Competence – The need to be aware and knowledgeable of other cultures.  In the case of transracial adoption, cultural competence comes in the form of learning about the child’s birth culture and being equipped to introduce them to that culture through out their life.

Racial Awareness – being aware of the social effects of race in American culture, the prejudices people have.  Being able to equip a child of color to deal with these issues.

Racial Identity – being able to positively identify oneself with one’s race.  Having a positive self image and concept of oneself in regards to race.

White Privilege – this is a set of privileges and social benefits that are given to those with light complexions, normally whites.  The concept of white privilege is not readily known among many who receive it.  Examples of white privilege would be expecting to be treated with respect in public settings, and the fact that most of the positions, political and business, are filled by whites.  White privilege also includes the assumption that a person is white when their race is unknown.  For example, when you read a book, hear a voice on the radio, or listen to someone else talk about a person and the race of that those persons is not know, it is automatically assumed by most that the person is white.

Family Uniform Identity – the process of identity change on the levels of race, culture, and family roles that take place with each member of a family during the process of adoption.  This change occurs within the family unit from the beginning of the adoption process until several years after finalization.  During this process the family learns to identify one another as family, recognizing that they belong to one another, and facing society and the world as a single family unit.

 

This paper does not discuss issues related to the Indian Child Welfare Act, nor explore adoptions of children of American Indian Descent. Little emphasis is given to transracially adoptive scenarios not between white parents and black children. 

This paper does discuss transracial adoption in America.  It looks closely at the issues raised in the family and society in transracial adoption, and how these issues affect the formation of Family Uniform Identity.


Literature Review

 

This paper discusses transracial adoption (TRA).  It looks at the various issues that affect families that adopt transracially, and how these issues develop after the adoption.  This paper also closely examines the transformation that takes place within the entire family during adoption, and in this case specifically transracial adoption.

 

History of Transracial Adoption

The form of adoption that is recognized in America today first took place in the mid eighteen hundreds.  In 1851 Massachusetts state statute defined adoption and set the precedents for adoption today (Herman, 2002).  By the 1930’s every state had passed laws concerning adoption (Simon & Roorda, 2000). 

The first significant occurrence of TRA in America took place in the 1940s following World War II. (Simon & Alstein, 1977 in Hollingsworth, 1998)  American families began adopting children from orphanages in other countries.  The number of these types of transracial adoptions increased after other wars that took place later on, such as Korea and Vietnam (Silverman in Hollingsworth, 1998). 

The most common form of TRA today is adoption taking place between white parents and black children (Hollingsworth 1998, Vonk 2001).  White-black adoption began in the 1950s, as a result of encouragement of racial integration, as well as to provide homes for the many children of color in the foster care system. (Johnson P. R. 1987, Morin 1977)  This trend increased through the 1960s and on into the 70s, until the National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) declared transracial adoption as “cultural genocide” (Morin 1977, Simon & Roorda, 2000).  In essence the NABSW was stating that transracial adoption was literally destroying the black culture in America.  In the decades since the NABSW’s declaration transracial adoption has continued to be utilized as a viable method of adoption.

 

Laws Concerning Transracial Adoption

Transracial adoption is legal in the United States of America.  Even so there has been a struggle to move children through the adoption system.  A large majority of social workers, 83%, are white, while 30-40% of their cases dealt with black families (Simon & Alstien, 1996). There was concern that white social workers would give children with lighter complexions a higher priority in adoptive placements (McRoy & Grape, 1999). There were also cases of black children in transracial foster care placements.  In many instances these children had been in these homes for many years, yet when the foster family showed interest in adopting them the children were abruptly ripped from the home to be placed in a same-race placement (Goldsmith, 1999).  It was also noted that “in 1993 one of every four foster children was reported to have remained in care for 4.3 years or more and one of every 10 for seven years or more. (Vidal de Haymes, Blakemore, & Simon, 2000).

Situations like these prompted the creation of the Multi Ethnic Placement Act (MEPA) in 1994 (McRoy & Grape 1999, Heifetz-Holinger 1998).  The purpose of the act was to eliminate the “bottle-neck” (Simon & Alstien, 1996) of children who were in the foster care system waiting for placement, by eliminating racial barriers.

The MEPA stated adoption agencies who receive federal financial support cannot “categorically deny[ing] to any person the opportunity to become and adoptive or foster parent, solely on the basis of the race, color, or national origin of the adoptive or foster parent or the child… from delay[ing] or deny[ing] the placement of a child solely on the basis of race, color or national origin of the adoptive or foster parent or parents involved. (MEPA of 1994 in Hollingsworth, 1998, 106).

Despite the intent of the MEPA, holdup within the adoption and foster care system still occurred.  The conditions laid out in the MEPA were not effective because the wording still allowed for race to be one of the factors in denying placement.  Therefore the Interethnic Adoption Provisions (IEP) was created (Heifetz-Holinger 1998).  The IEP stated a “mandate that race cannot even be one of a group of reasons routinely used when making placement decisions” (Nadel 1998 in McRoy and Grape, 1996).

Now these laws allow for transracial adoption to occur more easily.  The two acts are combined now and referred to as MEPA-IEP (Heifetz-Holinger 1998).

 

Opposition to Transracial Adoption

The National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) has been a major opponent to transracial adoption.  In 1971, William T Merritt, then president of the NABSW gave a speech in protest of the rise in TRA.  In his speech he stated that transracial adoption was “cultural genocide” (Simon & Roorda, 2002).  The following year the NABSW gave a resolution in which they said:

“Black children belong physically, psychologically and culturally in black families where they a can receive the total sense of themselves and develop a sound projection of their future.  Only a black family can transmit the emotional and sensitive subtleties of perceptions and reactions essential for a black child’s survival in a racist society.  Human beings are products of their environments and develop there sense of values, attitudes and self concept within their own family structures.  Black children in white homes are cut off from the healthy development of themselves as black people.”

Other sources support the NABSW’s proclamation that whites cannot provide the psycho-social needs for black children in today’s racist world (Chimezie, 1977).  These sources also confirm the question as to whether or not white parents can teach black children the skills they need to survive (Patton, 2000)

In the argument against TRA, the number of minority children in the foster care system is brought up.  Many people will claim the need for transracial adoption lies in the fact that there are so many children of non-white heritage in foster care.  To counter this claim, same-race adoption supporters use the fact that accurate statistics on adoption haven’t been kept since 1971 (Hollingsworth, 1998).  Therefore we cannot claim there are a significant number of minority children needing adoptive placement.  Hollingsworth also points out that many of these children whose files show that they “have a permanency plan for adoption” are not actually available for adoption.  Many of the African-American children in the foster care system are in kinship foster care.

Kinship care is given by a relative of the child, usually aunts, uncles, or grandparents.  Kinship placement rarely results in adoption because the caregiver “considers themselves and the child as being a part of the same family (Hollingsworth 1998).  So while a child’s file may state they are available and in need of adoption, in reality they are in a permanent kinship foster care placement.

Arguments have also been made in attempt to show that transracial adoption is psychologically harmful to the children adopted.  Howe, an African-American professor a Boston Law School, talks about how children adopted transracially “often encounter a real shock when they leave home, and it can cause a major mental health or identity crisis” (Goldsmith, 1999). 

Despite these various claims that TRA is harmful and unnecessary, there have been no scientific studies done to support those points (Simon & Alstien, 1996).  “The arguments against transracial adoption have no empirical base; they are ideologically and politically driven” (Simon & Alstien, 1996).

 

Support for Transracial Adoption and previous studies

On the other hand, support for transracial adoption is plentiful.  Many studies have been done on transracial adoption (Simon & Alstien, 1996; Johnson, 1987; Bagley, 1993; DeBerry, 1996; Vidal de Haymes, et. al 2000).  Simon and Alstien have conducted the only long term study on transracial adoption.  They were able to follow over three hundred transracial adoptees and parents over the course of 20 years. (1996; Goldsmith 1999).  Simon and Alstien have concluded that transracial adoption works and that it is a “good thing for the children and the families” (1996).

Simon, along with Roorda, a transracial adoptee, interviewed twenty transracial adoptees in a compiling work entitled “In Their Own Voices.”  In this book the voices of children who have been through the experience of transracial adoption were shown, the struggles as well as the joys.

A study conducted by Johnson (1987) showed that questions and comfort level about race were high in transracially adoptive families as opposed to same-race.  Johnson stated that 65% of the children in transracial homes were comfortable enough to ask questions about their biological parents compared to only 30% in same race homes.  It has also been stated that at preschool age, black children adopted transracially has a more positive self image than those adopted inracially.  (Simon Alstien 1977 in Johnson 1987).   That is not to say that children adopted inracially are at a disadvantage, but just that the concerns stated by the NABSW and others are being addressed within transracial adoptive homes.

Many parents are very aware of what is going on this world, and what needs to be done to help their children lead productive lives.  Leftwich (1996) stated:

 “Racism and bigotry were assumed to be the dominant realities which would shape the adopted children's experiences in the world, and their parents were driven to provide their children with the tools the parents thought would prepare them to cope with the consequences.”

 

Training and Support for Adoptive Parents

In nearly every form of adoption training is required to some extent for the parents wishing to adopt.  In Minnesota every parent planning on adoption through the Minnesota Waiting Children’s program is required to take part in an adoption training session. (MARN, 2003).  There are also many resources for transracial families, such as books, newsletters and support groups all based around issues within transracial adoption. (Wardle, 1991).  Parents can learn from other adoptive parents on ways that they have provided connections to a child’s birth culture, and also how they have dealt with different forms of racism.  Other resources (Stienberg & Hall, 2002) state how important it is for transracial parents to find same-race role models for their children.

It is necessary for parents who adopt transracially to have some form of training directed at the issues of race, skin color and discrimination.  Many white couples who plan on adopting are often unaware of prejudice that they, themselves, may have that can hinder the child’s growth and development as a person.  (Vonk & Angram 2001).  Cultural competence training for parents who have adopted across racial boundaries is helpful.

 

Review of issues in adoption and transracial adoption

Within every adoption, transracial or same-race, there are issues that are brought forth.  Across all adoptions there are issues that range from mild behavioral and emotional problems to attachment disorders, prenatal drug exposure, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorders.  Within TRA an entirely new set of issues arise.  Families who adopt transracially need to be prepared to deal with “issues of racial dynamics as they exist in society today” (McRoy & Grape 1999).  Race and skin color, and the importance placed on them by American society is something that the parents and siblings within a transracially adoptive family need to be readily aware of.

The “love is colorblind” (Steinberg & Hall, 2002) mentality is commonplace in transracially adoptive homes.  While it is important that the families do not allow skin color be a determining factor within the family, they must be aware that skin color is significant in American culture.  America’s race consciousness has been evident in many ways.  Some forms of racism are discreet, such as subtle discrimination and undo attention, both positive and negative, that is drawn to individuals and families.  But racism still exists much more overtly in instances of racial slurs, hate crimes, and racial profiling.  All of these forms of racism are something that transracially adoptive families must be ready to deal with on a day to day basis. 

             McRoy states:

“Families must recognize that they are not simply adopting a child from a different racial background, but that the child comes with an entire historical and cultural heritage that will influence how he or she will be treated both by blacks and white.”

While studies have revealed that “there are whites who are capable of rearing emotionally healthy black children” (Ladner 1977 in Simon & Alstien 1996), it is also stated that “skin color is a significant factor” that needs to be taken into consideration in preparation for transracial adoption, because there is a distinct relationship between a person’s skin color and experiences with discrimination (McRoy & Grape, 1999).

It is therefore imperative that parents in transracial adoption are adequately prepared to assist their child in growing up in our society.  Within the family unit itself though, it is essential that a “sincere effort to change their lives” (Wardle, 1991), occurs in a way that draws the child into the family and the family to the child.  There needs to be an identity change that occurs within each member of the family, almost a form of“assimilation” (Johnson, 1987).  This growth should be based on the “acknowledgment not rejection of the differences” (Kirk in Johnson, 1987).  Kirk’s statement reflects the definition of family uniform identity; a process that is unique in each family setting.


Research Methodology

A key part of this paper was the primary research.  To further the study of transracial adoption, this researcher needed to conduct some form of primary research.

The researcher formulated a questionnaire/interview that was conducted with several adoptive families. The purpose of the research was to support the researcher’s claim of identity change that takes place in the process of transracial adoption, namely that of the family. There were three sets of questions for the three different groups she chose to interview.  She had a set of questions for the parents of transracially adopted children, for the biological children in transracially adoptive families, and for the adopted children as well.

In the interviews with the parents of transracially adoptive families, the researcher’s purpose was to find out what issues regarding race were brought up before the adoption, and how these issues panned out.  During the process of TRA, especially local adoptions, the parents go through cultural training, equipping them to understand some of the issues that adopting children of another race can bring.  These issues can include such things as dealing with racism, how to incorporate the child’s birth culture into their new life, and also in the case of African-American children, how to do their hair.  With the interview of these parents, the researcher planned to find out what issues were addressed to these parents prior to their adoption, and how these issues were resolved after the adoption.

The interviews for the children adopted transracially allowed for the viewpoint of these children to be known.  The researcher hoped to find out how the issues of the adoption process affected these children, but specifically those issues involving race.  Questions that were asked are:   Does it bother you that you have different color skin than your parents and/or siblings?  When you found out your parents were white, what did you think about that?  How do you feel about your adoption?  This researcher wanted to bring to light how the transracial adopted child is affected by the race issue in adoption.

Another interview was needed to learn about the identity change that takes place in the process of TRA.  This interview was that of the biological children in the adoptive family.  No matter what the age these children are, whether they are older or younger than their adoptive siblings, transracial adoption has had a significant effect on them.  In interviewing these siblings, the researcher planned to gain an understanding of the process of identity change that takes place in the family, from the biological siblings view point.  She wanted to also see how skin color and race are a factor in forming a sibling relationship.

Through this series of interviews, the researcher hoped to gain a clearer understanding of the issues in transracial adoption, as well as paint a picture for the readers as to what occurs within the family unit during transracial adoption.

The two families that participated in this research are to be referred to as “Family A” and “Family B”.

Family A has ten children, seven of whom are adopted, three are biological.  Two of their children, a boy and a girl sibling group, joined the family in 1998.  They were adopted through Minnesota Waiting Children and are of African-American Heritage.  The other five children were adopted in 2001, through a Haitian Orphanage Adoption program.  Six of the adopted children and two of the biological children participated in the study, along with the parents.  The youngest biological child passed away in 1999.  These interviews were conducted in person.  See figures one and two for reference

Family B has seven children, three biological and four adopted.  Two of their children, an African-American boy and girl, were adopted transracially in 1998 also through Minnesota Waiting Children.  The youngest two children, are also a sibling group, two sisters who were foster-adopted into the family in 1999 and 2001.  For this study, the parents, two biological children, and the elder two adopted children participated.  These interviews took place via email.

Transracial adoption had lead to a more complex family structure that the typical American family.  By exploring the relationships and concerns of each group of family members, the paper has provided and avenue of clear understanding of the benefits of TRA.


Family A: adopted children

 

Age

Number of years in home

Gender

Child 1A

14

Five

Female

Child 2A

11

One and a half

Female

Child 3A

10

Five

Male

Child 4A

8

Two

Male

Child 5A

8

Two

Female

Child 6A

6

One and a half

Male

Figure 1

 

Family A: siblings

 

Age

Gender

Sibling 1A

20

Female

Sibling 2A

17

Male

Figure 2

 

Family B: adopted children

 

Age

Number of years in home

Gender

Child 1B

13

Five

Female

Child 2B

12

Five

Male

Figure 3

 

Family B: siblings

 

Age

Gender

Sibling 1B

14

Female

Sibling 2B

12

Male

Figure 4


Findings

American society is a very race conscious society.  This importance placed on race causes an increased struggle in areas that involve the crossing of racial boundaries.  Transracial adoption is one of these areas.  Parents and children in transracial families face issues surrounding race, culture, and prejudices on a daily basis.  Both of the families interviewed for this paper shared unique experiences in dealing with these issues.

Since its beginnings, TRA has faced much opposition.  The National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) has been one of the main opponents to transracial adoption.  The NABSW’s stance as well as that of many other Americans has caused a continuing struggle for adoptive parents, and their children, when the adoption crosses racial lines.  With the families interviewed the parents felt the brunt of the opposition, mainly through the pre-adoption process.  Family A recalled how they experienced strong opposition from some members of their extended family. 

In response to the NABSW’s claim that white parents are unable to properly equip black children to grow up in this “white world,” the mother of Family B stated:

 I think there are a lot of parents who do not prepare their children properly for the world.  But I think it is the opposite.  They do not prepare them to be black.  It is such a different world.  Blacks tend to live in different areas than white folks.  Will my children be comfortable living in a predominantly black neighborhood?  I pray they will be.  I would like them to be surrounded by those who have jobs to support their families and live in neighborhoods of mostly blacks just as easily as in a very mixed neighborhood or a predominately white area… Sometimes I think my children grasp how much hatred there is toward them merely because of the color of their skin.  Sometimes they can ignore that and make people get to know who they are.  We have insulated them from some of that prejudice, but we have to prepare them for it at the same time.”

The parents in Family A, scoffed at this question.  They felt it was almost a ridiculous claim, and had no justification.  They stated,

 “As a culture, we place entirely too much emphasis on race as an issue.  Many people believe that your identity is based on your race, on your culture.  We do not agree.  We believe your identity should be based on your relationship with Christ.  Cultural Heritage is important, and part of our family study, but it is equally important as our non-adoptive heritage.”

Family A’s faith played a significant role in their adoption, and has worked positively in the families’ formation of family uniform identity.

Cultural and pre adoptive training took place for both of the families interviewed.  Both of the families’ first adoption was through Minnesota Waiting Children, therefore they participated in the state mandatory training.  The parents reported that the training focused mainly on issues that were universal across all adoptions.  Some of the information they were given was in regards to the special needs of older children and sibling groups.  Family A reported that “little emphasis was given toward transracial adoption” during the training.

Family B stated that one of the presenters at their training was a transracially adoptive parent.  “She shared many experiences, concerns and joys from her many years of parenting.  She shared issues surrounding having your children having role models of the same color, the prejudice United State’s society has against African Americans.”  Hearing the reports of other parents who had adopted transracially was helpful for these families, but it also raised questions.

Both sets of parents had many concerns in adopting a child of another race, although both families reported that race was not the primary factor, and basically a non issue when it came to deciding to adopt transracially.  The concerns the parents shared ranged from what the reaction would be in bring black children into a white neighborhood, how the children would accept parents and siblings of a different color; and how to care for black skin and hair.

In response to the first two major concerns, the families reported that in the long run, their concerns weren’t justified.  Family A stated “None of our concerns regarding integration into the neighborhood and our church circle of friends were justified.  Our children were and are very well accepted.”  Family B shared, “We were reassured by our children’s social worker, therapists and foster parents that they just wanted parents.  They did not have a mindset about what color their parents would be.”

The children who were interviewed reported that they had little to no concerns or worries about being adopted, or about having parents who were white.  Child 1B stated “I thought people would make fun of me [because my parents were white].  Nobody ever makes fun of me so I don’t worry about that anymore.” 

Each of the children were asked to remember what they imagined their adoptive parents would look like, namely what color skin they would have.  The answered varied from child to child, and there didn’t seem to be any significant similarities between the children who thought one way, and those who thought another.  It seemed evenly split between those who imagined parents who were white, and those who imagined parents who were black.  Child 4A commented that he thought they might have been many different colors.  The majority of the children stated that it didn’t matter to them what color skin their parents had, they just wanted to be adopted.  Child 1A stated that she was anxious upon finding out her adoptive parents were white.  Her response to learning the skin color of her parents was “will they know how to do my hair?”

As stated before, hair is a fairly large issue in adoption, especially transracial adoption that takes place between white parents and black children.  The parents in family A also expressed concern about this issue.  As a result of their concern they studied and researched the care of African American hair prior to the adoption.  They also talked with the children’s current foster parents, who were black, and asked many questions about the issue of hair and skin care.  Family A reported, “Our study of skin and hair needs paid off well, and we have learned and taught others how to deal with these issues.”  They also shared that are comfortable in discussing hair issues with other African Americans, and have occasionally been questioned by other African American parents on how they do their daughters “beautiful hair.”

The subject of hair also came up in the siblings interviews.  Questions were asked to all of the research participants about different forms of discrimination, and how they saw these in their lives.  Sibling 1B stated twice, that she gets annoyed with “all the constant questions about my sister’s black hair… when she wears extensions.”

The siblings and the parents described many other instances where they felt that unnecessary attention was drawn to their family, both positive and negative, because of their adoption and racial differences.

Instances of racism have been present in both families on various occasions.  The parents are very aware of American society’s emphasis on race, and the prejudices that other people may have.  When asked how they prepare their children for racism and how they combat racism in their homes, family A stated:

“We have taught them and continue to teach them what is important in creating their identity.  That it is not based on the color of their skin or how they look.  We have taught them to ignore such remarks and to have a firm self-image.  As they grow older and are exposed to more hostility and discrimination, we will deal with those issues.”

Family B stated, “We talk a lot and try to explain to them that people are not always nice. There are certain places we choose not to go to because of discriminatory treatment.”   

The parents in family B shared “All you have to do is walk into a Wal-Mart and see the way people look at you.  Sometimes they admire you.  Sometimes they look down on you.  People think nothing of asking you if you have adopted and want to know your whole story.”

Attentions like these become bothersome to the children and the families.  Sibling 1A stated “all the attention makes it difficult at times to feel as though we are a normal family.  At least that’s how we view ourselves.” 

Part of this view of normalcy is key in creating a uniform identity for these families.  The parents and the siblings who participated in the interviews gave keen insight into this part of the adoption process.  This was mainly because they were in the family prior to the start of the process.  This researcher has also had first hand experience with this.

She stated:

 “People talk about the importance of racial identity, connections to birth culture, and things of that nature.  I do agree that these things are important.  But I have seen with my own eyes my family come into our own identity, and create our own culture.  It’s a blending of the cultures that each of us came from.  It’s just us.”

This researcher used the term “family uniform identity” to define the process of transformation that occurs within the family.  Throughout the interviews this process showed.  Family B stated, “The kids are bonded as siblings and think of themselves as siblings even though they’d like to disown each other too.  That happens with birth siblings too.” 

The parents in family A were quick to point out that there is a difference between identity and cultural heritage.  This, along with their faith, played an important roll in their formation of family uniform identity.  In family A, they talk about a blending of cultures that has taken place.  European, American, African-American, and Haitian cultures all are a part of the cultural heritage and identity of family A.  This process of blending occurred over a length of time, during and after the adoption process.  It began with the parents and their biological children learning about the heritages of the adopted children, and the adopted children, in turn, learning about the family’s initial heritage.  After the children were placed in the home both cultures existed and were explored until a balance between them arose.  The parents in family A recall that, “our adopted children take great pride in claiming that they are direct descendants of Abraham Lincoln, which they are, thru their adoptive mother.”

Family B shared similar experience in the blending of cultures that took place in their family.  They stated: “We teach them music, books, movies, dress, etc.  We attend an all black church sometimes.  They are conscious of black ‘style’.  All of this incorporated into our lifestyle, so it’ more of who we are as family rather than just them.”

The experiences with racism have only helped to unite the families further.  Talk about skin color, occurs often and openly.  Sibling 1B shared how “They tease me about being the pale one.  But I can’t object, because I know it’s true. I think it helps us be closer that we can tease about our colors.”

Another significant issue that plagues transracial families is to which race they identify themselves with.  Again, this just fuels the process of family uniform identity.  The family as a whole often doesn’t find a specific race to identify with and as a result they are drawn closer to one another.  The parents in family B stated, “We often tease that we are from the human race.”  Both families found America’s emphasis on race bothersome.  They often felt conflict when they were required to list their family’s racial or ethnic background on various forms.  Family A stated, “We make a deliberate choice to not answer questions that ask us to list racial or ethnic background.  On occasions when we do… we are careful to list all of our ethnic backgrounds, and list our race as Human.”

It was clear with the conclusion of the interviews that these families were well adjusted, blended, and had significantly formed their families uniform identity.  They recognized the members of their family as belonging to one another and they were able to face society with a united mindset and a closeness that can be found in many same-race families.  The parents, the siblings, and the children all unanimously agreed that they were happy with the way their family was put together, and the way their family exists today.


 

Conclusion    

While transracial is a new form of adoption in America, it has grown significantly.  Support for transracial adoption is very evident and can be backed up by many scientific studies.  Transracially adoptive families must deal with basic adoption issues as well as issues regarding race.  There are numerous resources for transracially adoptive families to assist them in these areas.  This paper has allowed for the reader to gain a clear understanding of some of the issues in transracial adoption.  It looked closely at issues that existed in two specific families and how the families responded to these issues. It has also explained how these issues have played a key role in the formation of family uniform identity, showing that family uniform identity is important in the process of transracial adoptions.


Recommendations

This study could be researched further.  Utilizing more primary research would help, more interviews done with more families.  These interviews should all be done in person.  The researcher should spend time observing the family and how they work together.

Another possible way of furthering this research would be to study families of a period of five to six years.  The observation or study of the family would begin at the beginning of their adoption, soon before the children would be placed in the home.  A series of interviews for parents, siblings, and children would be conducted at various times during the five/six year period.  This way the researcher could watch the process of family uniform identity as it took place.  By studying more families the clearer the findings will be, as you will see the similarities in certain parts across the range of families.

Comparison studies could be done using families who adopted from specific ethnic groups, Latino, Asian, and African-American.  As well as comparison studies with local and international.  Comparison studies could also be done with same-race adoptive families to compare how the family uniform identity process takes place without racial issues.


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Glossary

 

Adoptee the person who is being or was adopted

Adoptism discriminating against someone due to the fact they are adopted or are part of an adopted family

Genocide – annihilation or attempt at annihilation of a group of people, often based on race or religious beliefs

Racial Profiling – negative assumptions made about groups of people on the basis of race

Racism discriminating against someone on the basis of their race

 

 


Appendix One: Transcript of children’s interviews

 

Child 2A questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

 I am nice.  I don’t like when I share a bed with [my sister] and I kick her, accidentally.  I like when people are nice and don’t yell, and aren’t rude.  I want everyone to know Jesus.

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)

 

I was adopted from Haiti, I was nine when I came here.

 

  1. Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

Yes

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different?

 

I thought they would be white, because other kids [in the orphanage] were adopted by white people

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

I felt fine; I was jumping up and down because I was going to be adopted.  Some kids were mad at me, but not my birth brother, he was praying for me and was happy.  It didn’t bother me then, or now.

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

No

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

It’s not important, it doesn’t matter.

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you?

 

Sometimes I look at other people’s skin, and think “wow I want that skin color,” but they I think “no I am happy with my skin color, because that how God made it.  It’s kind of like wanting to have a different hair color, or hair cut.  I would just like to try it for a day.

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color?

 

No

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

no, not really nobody ever says anything like that to me

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings?

 

No, they could, but nobody has

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

I would make me feel sad; I would go tell my mom if that happened.

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

 I feel good.  I am glad I am here, because in Haiti I don’t know if my birth mom knew Jesus. I am happy yup.

 

 

Child 3A questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

 10 years old, I lived in a foster home; it’s not fun in foster homes.  I used to be a Barney fan, now I am a Star Wars fan. 

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)

 

 I was 5, in US

 

  1. Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

No

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different?

 

Imagined them white

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

Happy, of course it didn’t bother me that they had a different color skin

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

No worries

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

Doesn’t matter

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you?

 

No I don’t think about it a lot, but I like my skin color.  Kind of light, not very dark brown.  

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color?

 

Never

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

At first I didn’t want anyone to know I was adopted, that was a long time ago.  When I was at church when I was little, and my mom and dad called me, I wouldn’t come because I didn’t want people to know that my mom and dad were white and I wasn’t. 

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings?

 

No

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

Fine

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

 I feel good about being adopted, yeah.  I wish my mom and dad were a little bit younger.  Then they could run around.

 

 

Child 4A questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself. 

 

I used to be called Micah, but it was said a different way.  When I was in the orphanage, some people were rude.  I’ve been playing in this big closet, I’d hide in it.  I don’t have it any more.  I run faster than anybody else.

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)

 

 6, international

 

  1.  Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?  Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different?

 

 I thought they were gonna be black skin, green skinned or blue

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

It felt a little strange, no it didn’t bother me. No, I didn’t bother me ever.

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

No

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

Not important, because we all have different skin.  Like Mickey mouse has white skin and black skin.  Lindsay, you don’t have white skin, you have light skin

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you?

 

No, I like my brown skin.  If I had light skin I would still like it.

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color?

 

Yeah; long time ago when I was in Haiti

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

Yeah, people said it was no fair that I got to be adopted; people in the orphanage

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings?

 

Yeah; in Haiti, you [the researcher] was outside with [our sister] and I was inside.  People said you can’t be adopted by them cuz you have different skin.  you will have to come back.

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

Sad

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

Happy; happy that this is my family.  Nervous… I get nervous when people are saying mean things. 

 

 

Child 5A questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

 I am nice, I sometimes get mad or angry, because I don’t get to do stuff.  I like to play outside, I like to play on the computer, I like to blow on the flute and I want to get one sometime.  Sometimes I don’t like going to sleep

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)

 

Six, from Haiti

 

  1. Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

I never thought I would be adopted

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different?

 

Kind of

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

Good, love, no it didn’t bother me

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

No I didn’t think much about it

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

 Very important; its important to me and I would want her to like my skin

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you?

 

Yeah; I think its good.  At church a girl looked at me, and it felt like she was thinking I have weird skin, she has better skin then me

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color?

 

No

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

 People just ask me about it. They ask me if I speak English, or if I know any Creole

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings?

 

Some people ask “why don’t they have the same [skin]” I just say “that’s how God made me, are you weird or something.  You have different colors too.”

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

Worried, that we aren’t born in the same family, that people would say that.  I was worried that people would make a big deal about it.  Like how Hannah wasn’t born into the same family as me.  Maybe people would treat us different.

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted? Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

Good, very good.  People are nice here. Very happy.

 

14. Anything else you want to share?

 

I really wanted to be adopted, it was fun that I got to be here with you guys.  I like my color, and I like your color.  Its cool I get to be in a family.  Sometimes the house gets messy, but I still like it.  Its cool here, because you get special stuff, and people love you.  And mom gives you hugs all the time and it makes you feel good.  Thank you for that.  I just like to be here.

 

That’s how God made us, he wanted us to be in this family.  He called us to do that.  Mom and dad thought we were cute.  That’s just how God did it.  And they love us, that’s why we are in their family

 

 

Child 6A – questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

 I am a boy that obeys, and listens, and doesn’t disobey.  I listen to my mom and dad.  I help people. I like to play legos and Lincoln logs, I like to play piano, play with my friends. And play with my brothers and sisters.  I want to be a dentist

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)

 

Adopted from Haiti, I was four and a half

 

  1.  Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

Yes

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different?

 

 I thought they would be white

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

I felt happy, it didn’t bother me, it doesn’t bother me now

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

 No, I was just happy

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

Very important

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you?

 

 I sometimes think that my mom and dad could be this color; that people would like that color.  NO it doesn’t matter that I have brown skin

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color?

 

Nope

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

No

 

  1.  Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings?

 

No, well the big kids at church say “you are weird” they try to get me to stay and play with them

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

 n/a

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

Happy I am happy that this is the family that I am in.  Happy and glad

 

14. Anything else you want to share?

 

I have animals and I like my friends.  I had a dream that dad was brining home our chickens and an alien crashed in our house, but we got out quickly and they were chasing us and stuff…

 

 

Child 1B questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

I am thirteen.  I love rodents.  I love doing hair.  I love reading and handwriting. 

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US)
  2.  

 I don’t remember.  (You were 9.) It was from within the US.

 

  1. Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

Yes.  Well, I thought they would be black.  I didn’t think they would have glasses.  I thought my mom and dad would have really long hair.

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different? 

 

No answer

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now?

 

 No, I just felt happy that I had someone who cared about me.  I like them how they are. 

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption? 

 

I thought people would make fun of me.  Nobody ever makes fun of me, so I don’t worry about that anymore.

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

I would not think to tell someone what color I am.   

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you? 

 

It doesn’t really matter to me.  I like the way I’m made.

 

 

 

 

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color? 

 

I have been called names.  It made me very angry.  I have beat up one little girl because she called me “little black girl.” 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

Not really.  They just treat me like a person. 

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings? 

 

No.

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

Yes, I am very happy.  

 

 

Child 2B questions and answers

 

  1. Pretend I have never met you.  Please tell me a little about yourself.

 

Okay, I like to play with kids.  I want to be in the Army.  I love being with animals. 

 

  1. How old were you when you were adopted.  Was you adoption local (within the US) or international (outside of the US

 

 I think I was 8 in the USA. 

 

  1. Before you were adopted did you imagine what your adopted parents would look like?

 

Well, I thought my mom and dad would be white. 

 

  1. Tell me what you thought they would look like.  Did you imagine them having the same color skin as you, or different? 

 

  1. When you learned that your parents were white, how did you feel about that?  Did it bother you at all?  Does it bother you now? 

 

No, it didn’t bother me.  No. 

 

  1. Did you have any concerns, worries, about having parents that were white?  What were those concerns or worries?  How were they resolved, if at all, after your adoption?

 

Well, I thought they would act like black people.  They do act kind of like black people.  In some ways they are different.  Their hair is different.  You dress different.  Most black people wear dresses and suits.  It’s okay the way my parents dress. 

 

  1. When you tell others about yourself, how important is it that they know what color skin you have?

 

I probably wouldn’t think to tell them I am black.  

 

  1. How important is your skin color to you.  Do you think about it a lot?  Do you think about it every once in a while?  Does it really matter to you? 

 

I think about it when I grow up that my skin color might change.  I think I might be darker or lighter.  I would rather have darker skin than I do now.  It doesn’t matter a lot what color my skin is.

 

  1. Has there ever been a time that you felt discriminated against, treated badly, because of your skin color

 

  Yes.  This one kid, Paul, he calls me blackanese.  It makes me kind of mad, but not a lot.  I either tell someone when I am called names but mostly I just go talk to someone else. 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you are adopted?

 

No.  Actually, somebody asked me if it was bad to be adopted or if it feels kind of nice.  I told them it’s not too bad. 

 

  1. Have you ever felt discriminated against, treated badly, because you look different than your parents/siblings? 

 

Not that I know of. 

 

  1. How did any of those scenarios make you feel?

 

No answer

 

  1. What are your personal feelings about being adopted?  Are you happy being with the family that you are?

 

Yep. 


Appendix Two: Transcripts of parents’ interviews

 

Adoptive Parents Family A questions and answers

  1. Tell me briefly your adoption story.  How many children you have adopted?  Where they are from (within US, or international). There ages, ethnic background, and when you adopted them.

We adopted a sibling group of 2 from the Minnesota Waiting Children program in 1998.  They are African American, now ages 14 and 10.  We then adopted 5 children from Haiti in 2001.  They are all Haitian.

  1. When did the idea of transracial adoption come up?  What lead you to decide to adopt transracially?

We considered transracial adoption as part of considering the Minnesota Waiting children program.  Are desire to participate in that program was motivated by a desire to adopt a sibling group and because of the state support for adoption costs.  Race was not an issue.

  1. When you were in the beginning stages of your adoption process, what kind of training, if any, did you go through? 

Our initial training revolved around the needs of older adopted children, sibling group adoption and general adoption issues.  Very little emphasis was placed on trans-racial issues.

  1. Was any of that training focused on adopting transracially?  What issues/concerns were brought up in this training.

The training involved mostly dealing with how to deal with others questioning your trans-racial adoption, in particular other family members, aunts, uncles, grandparents.  There was some discussion of racial issues in the light of connecting with other groups for support and with some of the basics in caring for a black child namely, skin and hair concerns.

  1. Concerning the racial issues of your adoption, what were your major concerns prior to the adoption?

We had very few concerns regarding race initially other than skin and hair care.  I had some long term concerns regarding integrating black children into a primarily white neighborhood.  What would the reaction be?  Also we had questions regarding preparing these children for dealing with racial prejudice as they grow older.

  1. Now that you have this child(ren) in your home have these concerns been justified?  Were they valid concerns, or have they turned out to be less of a problem than you first thought.  Please give examples if you can.

None of our concerns regarding integration into the neighborhood and our church circle of friends were justified.  Our children were and are very well accepted.  Our study of skin and hair needs paid off well, and we have learned and taught others how to deal with these issues.

 

  1. One of the major arguments against transracial adoption is that white parents will not be able to raise a black child with all that is necessary to survive in a “white world.”  How do you feel about this statement?

Plffffftbt.  As a culture, we place entirely too much emphasis on race as an issue.  Many people believe that your identity is based on your race, on your culture.  We do not agree.  We believe your identity should be based on your relationship with Christ.  Cultural Heritage is important, and part of our family study, but it is equally important as our non-adoptive heritage.  For example, our adopted children take great pride in claiming that they are direct descendants of Abraham Lincoln, which they are, thru their adoptive mother.

  1. Have you as parents ever been discriminated against because your adoption?  Has your family as a whole ever been discriminated against because you are an adoptive family?  Please give examples if you can.

As an adoptive family, no.  Most of the people we meet, who know that we adopt, are very supportive of that fact.

  1. Have you as parents, or your family as a whole, ever been discriminated against because of your transracial adoption?  Because you don’t look like one another?  Please give examples if you can.

If we have it was unknown to us because we really don’t care what others think.  If the children are out with only one parent, people sometimes think that we are a blended family (one parent from each race).

 

  1. Have your children, adopted and biological, ever been discriminated against because of their adoption or race?

No

  1. In the instances above, how have you and your children dealt with these issues?
  2. What measures have you taken to equip you children to deal with racism and discrimination?

We have taught them and continue to teach them what is important in creating their identity.  That it is not based on the color of their skin or how they look.  We have taught them to ignore such remarks and to have a firm self-image.  As they grow older and are exposed to more hostility and discrimination, we will deal with those issues.

  1. How important do you feel it is to expose your child to their birth culture?  What measures have you taken to do that?

While it is important to understand their heritage, we often feel that people today confuse culture with identity.  We study black heritage and culture, but we do not expose our children to the so called ‘culture’ of today’s society, regardless of race.

  1. How have you seen the dynamics of your family, the way your family works together, change as a result of your adoption?

Yes, very much so.  We have changed both by the factor of adding more children and by adding older children.  This has differed from adding children from birth.  Our initial expectations of needing time to blend turned out to be too short.  Also, as time as progressed we feel less and less of a separation between the birth children and the adoptive children in our thoughts and prayers.

  1. Please comment on your feelings concerning the emphasis American culture puts on race.  How do you feel, or what do you think about when you are asked to list your racial or ethnic background.

As previously stated, Americans place entirely too much emphasis on race.  They equate cultural heritage with identity.  We choose not to do that.  Also, we make a deliberate choice to either not answer questions that ask us to list racial or ethnic background.  On occasions when we do answer those questions, we are careful to list all of our ethnic backgrounds, and list our race as Human.

 

 

Adoptive Parents Family B questions and answers

  1. Tell me briefly your adoption story.  How many children you have adopted?  Where they are from (within US, or international). There ages, ethnic background, and when you adopted them.

 

We have 4 adopted children.  All are domestic adoptions.  They were placed with us at the ages of 7 yrs., 8 yrs., 7 weeks and 5 ½ weeks.  The 7 and 8 year old are African-American.  The babies are Caucasian.  The 7 week old has Native American heritage we have been told.  All of the adoptions were finalized within 18 months placement in our home. 

 

  1. When did the idea of transracial adoption come up?  What lead you to decide to adopt transracially? 

 

We chose to adopt transracially after reading a biography of a needy sibling group.  Older, special needs adoptees tend to be African American.  We felt we should adopt older children and their race was not a hindrance to us adopting them. 

 

  1. When you were in the beginning stages of your adoption process, what kind of training, if any, did you go through?

 

  We attended state mandated adoption training.  It was a two day long seminar covering issues from attachment disorders to working with therapists, social workers and many other topics. 

 

  1. Was any of that training focused on adopting transracially?  What issues/concerns were brought up in this training. 

 

Yes, one of the presenters was a transracial parent.  She shared many experiences, concerns and joys from her many years of parenting.  She shared issues surrounding having your children having role models of the same color, the prejudice United State’s society has against African Americans, especially teenage males, common stereotypes, and having friendships with those who look like you.

 

  1. Concerning the racial issues of your adoption, what were your major concerns prior to the adoption?

 

 Would the children accept someone a different color as a mom and dad?  Would they care that their siblings were not black?  Would they try to be “white” and lose their blackness?

 

  1. Now that you have this child(ren) in your home have these concerns been justified?  Were they valid concerns, or have they turned out to be less of a problem than you first thought.  Please give examples if you can.

 

 We were reassured by our children’s social worker, therapists and foster parents that they just wanted parents.  They did not have a mindset about what color their parents would be.  So it was only an initial concern.  Of course, in a perfect world, it would be best for them to be in a family where their parents and siblings were the same color.  It has turned out to be a very small issue.  Our oldest, now 13 ½, often feels others staring at her, because we all look different  We have had many conversations about how different we look, but that the casual onlooker really cannot guess if I am biological mom or not unless dad is with us.  They can just assume dad is black.  That has helped somewhat.  She does have a problem with us looking different.  She feels very set apart from the family.  I do reiterate that this is not a huge issue.  It is something we readdress frequently.  I do think our children try to be “white” to some extent.  They have to be pushed more to have black friends.  They do not always want to embrace black music.  I must force that on them a little bit.  We expose them as much as possible to their culture.  It would be very easy for them to deny their black heritage.

 

  1. One of the major arguments against transracial adoption is that white parents will not be able to raise a black child with all that is necessary to survive in a “white world.”  How do you feel about this statement? 

 

I think there are a lot of parents who do not prepare their children properly for the world.  But I think it is the opposite.  They do not prepare them to be black.  It is such a different world.  Blacks tend to live in different areas than white folks.  Will my children be comfortable living in a predominantly black neighborhood?  I pray they will be.  I would like them to be surrounded by those who have jobs to support their families and live in neighborhoods of mostly blacks just as easily as in a very mixed neighborhood or a predominately white area.  I want them to be able to fit in everywhere.  I do not know if we are providing enough in that area or not.  We are trying.  We have Hispanic and black neighbors, although our neighborhood is mostly white.  We make special efforts to teach them black history, music and other cultural differences.  Sometimes I think my children grasp how much hatred there is toward them merely because of the color of their skin.  Sometimes they can ignore that and make people get to know who they are.  We have insulated them from some of that prejudice, but we have to prepare them for it at the same time. 

 

  1. Have you as parents ever been discriminated against because your adoption?  Has your family as a whole ever been discriminated against because you are an adoptive family?  Please give examples if you can.

 

 Oh, most definitely.  All you have to do is walk into a Walmart and see the way people look at you.  Sometimes they admire you.  Sometimes they look down on you.  People think nothing of asking you if you have adopted and want to know your whole story.  The kids get very tired of this.  We were at an indoor amusement park this winter and a lady in the hot tub approached me.  She wondered if I had adopted my now 12 year old son who is African/American.  I told her yes, and inside of me I wished she hadn’t spoken.  She wanted to thank me for taking him in.  In these cases, the children are treated with preference.  They treat us like we should have our feet kissed for taking poor, little black children into our homes.  They look at these children as undesirables.  They wish they had enough grace to adopt them.  In a way, they mean well, but at the same time they really mean they couldn’t cope with having a black person in their home. 

 

  1. Have you as parents, or your family as a whole, ever been discriminated against because of your transracial adoption?  Because you don’t look like one another?  Please give examples if you can.

 

 People have said nasty things.  Why would you want to adopt a black child?  It hasn’t been often, but some folks are brazen enough to say such things.  They wonder where the children’s “real” parents are.  There are times when the kids are chosen to be a part of plays, athletic teams, etc. because the county is looking to fill their quotas.  They want my black children, so they look like they are doing a better job of being equal.  It has nothing to do with what they do, but that my children want to be a part of whatever activity.  They kids are often singled out for photographs.  My 12 year old is on the cover of the state 4-H bulletin possibly because of his color. 

 

  1. Have your children, adopted and biological, ever been discriminated against because of their adoption or race?

 

 One day a lady pulled up into my driveway and came stalking towards me.  No hellos, just do you have a little boy?  Well, yes, I have several.  What did he look like?  He’s a little black boy about 8 years old.  Well, he has been running after my car giving me the finger.  The tone of her comment made me irritated.  Does my son run and chase cars?  Maybe.  Would he intentionally give her the finger? No.  Had this have been another child, I truly believe she would have given him grace to see if he ever did it again.  It was a one time occurrence.  She has never stopped again.  I don’t know if he did it or not.  I told him not to chase cars and give them the finger.  I really don’t think he did it.  I think he was running in the yard and throwing his hands around and she flipped out. 

 

  1. In the instances above, how have you and your children dealt with these issues? 

 

We talk a lot and try to explain to them that people are not always nice. There are certain places we choose not to go to because of discriminatory treatment.

 

  1. What measures have you taken to equip you children to deal with racism and discrimination?

 

 I’ve given you quite a few examples. 

 

  1. How important do you feel it is to expose your child to their birth culture?  What measures have you taken to do that?

 

Oh, so very important.  We talk about food and eat traditional black food a lot which is also poor white food.  WE talk about the drug culture they were born into and how important it is for them to stay away from that world.  They know some people with substance abuse problems and have seen the negative effects.  We teach them music, books, movies, dress, etc.  We attend an all black church sometimes.  They are conscious of black ‘style”.  All of this incorporated into our lifestyle, so it’ more of who we are as family rather than just them. 

 

  1. How have you seen the dynamics of your family, the way your family works together, change as a result of your adoption?

 

 It’s been a tough road.  The transracial part is by far the easiest.  The results of their prenatal exposures to drug and alcohol, abuse and neglect are far harder to overcome.  The behaviors are very disruptive to the family. Interestingly our oldest white daughter wishes she wasn’t so pale!  We always tease about her paleness.  They kids are bonded as siblings and think of themselves as siblings even though they’d like to disown each other too.  That happens with birth siblings too.  

 

  1. Please comment on your feelings concerning the emphasis American culture puts on race.  How do you feel, or what do you think about when you are asked to list your racial or ethnic background.

 

 We often tease that we are from the human race.  It gets bothersome.  I have American Indian background, so I never know for sure what I should put on those forms.  Quite often we leave them blank. 

 

 


Appendix Three: transcript of the sibling’s interviews

 

Sibling 2A questions and answers

 

  1. Briefly describe your family, where you fit in among your siblings.

 

There are 12 people in my family, 11 here, 1 in heaven, I am the second oldest

 

  1. When your family first adopted what were feelings about the adoption?  Was there excitement, fear, worry?  Please state why you felt the way you did.

 

I was excited because I was going to have new brothers and sisters. I was scared because I didn’t know how they were going to respond to me, and how we would bond.

 

  1. What were your thoughts and feelings about adopting a child of another race?

 

I didn’t care, I knew God had told us that we were to be there family, and I was to be there brother.

 

  1. After the adoption, did you every experience discrimination, were you every treated badly or differently, because your family had adopted.  Please give any examples if possible

 

No, I wasn’t treated any different. A lot of my friends fell in love with my new bro’s and sis’s. Nobody ever treated badly, though we have had some people “look” at my family.

 

  1. Was there every any discrimination towards you or your family because the children you adopted were of another race?

 

Nope

 

  1. How has your family responded to any discrimination toward your family as a result of the adoption or racial issues?  Please give examples if possible.

 

We make sure to let them [the adopted children] all know that it’s ok to be another color; it’s the way that God made them.

 

  1. Have you experienced any instances where unnecessary attention, positive or negative, has been drawn to you or your family as a whole as a result of the adoption, or because your family looks “different”?  Can you give any examples of this?

 

I can’t think of any.

 

  1. How has your family dealt with these instances?

 

Above Answer

 

  1. What were you most worried about, prior to your family’s adoption?  Specifically any worries dealing with racial issues.

 

I never really thought about that. I guess just how people would respond and treat our family.

 

  1. How were these issues/worries resolved after the adoption? 

 

I keep saying to people that yeah there my bro’s or sis’s and I love them.

 

  1. How have you seen the dynamics of your family, the way your family works, change as a result of your adoption?  Have these changes helped bring your family closer?  Please give examples if possible.

 

Yes, a lot. Going from 4 to 7 to 10… was a very hard but interesting change. Especially after we moved to our house. With 1 bathroom, we have learned what being patient really is!

 

  1. Please comment on your feelings concerning the emphasis American culture puts on race.  How do you feel, or what do you think about when you are asked to list your racial or ethnic background.

 

America can be very nasty to other races. I enjoy meeting other people of other races. Doesn’t matter to me there skin color.

 

 

Sibling 1B questions and answers

 

  1. Briefly describe your family, where you fit in among your siblings.

 

I am the second oldest of 7.

 

  1. When your family first adopted what were feelings about the adoption?  Was there excitement, fear, worry?  Please state why you felt the way you did.

 

I was excited because I was finally going to get a little sister.  I just always wanted a sister. 

 

  1. What were your thoughts and feelings about adopting a child of another race?

 

I never thought about it. 

 

  1. After the adoption, did you every experience discrimination, were you every treated badly or differently, because your family had adopted.  Please give any examples if possible. 

 

I’d say yes.  I remember one time at the pool.  Some kids were making fun of my sister because she was black.  All of the constant questions about her black hair are annoying. 

 

  1. Was there every any discrimination towards you or your family because the children you adopted were of another race?

 

Sometimes people just say mean things.  A lot of times don’t even mean to be rude, but they are.  They want to know why my sister is black and I wonder why does it matter?

 

  1. How has your family responded to any discrimination toward your family as a result of the adoption or racial issues?  Please give examples if possible. 

 

We talk about it all of the time.  I’m very open to tell my friends that I don’t care what color they are.  I don’t like it when I am in a very white environment now.  

 

  1. Have you experienced any instances where unnecessary attention, positive or negative, has been drawn to you or your family as a whole as a result of the adoption, or because your family looks “different”?  Can you give any examples of this? 

 

As previously stated, all of the annoying questions about my sister’s hair when she wears extensions.  Why strangers feel free to ask these does not make sense?  We are on TV a lot.  They do a lot of stories about our family.  We never remember to watch these…  

 

  1. How has your family dealt with these instances?

 

Well, sometimes we tell people to cut it out if we know them.  We tell my brother and sister to stand up for themselves.  Oh well about the TV stories. 

 

  1. What were you most worried about, prior to your family’s adoption?  Specifically any worries dealing with racial issues.

 

I do not remember. 

 

  1. How were these issues/worries resolved after the adoption? 

 

n/a

 

  1. How have you seen the dynamics of your family, the way your family works, change as a result of your adoption?  Have these changes helped bring your family closer?  Please give examples if possible.

 

  Uhm…  My brother and sister have to spend a lot of time in work camp.  My little sister is a pain in the butt.  We have therapists and PCAs in our home.  Some of the toys and things are fun.  They tease me about being the pale one.  But I can’t object, because I know it’s true. I think it helps us be closer that we can tease about our colors.  

 

  1. Please comment on your feelings concerning the emphasis American culture puts on race.  How do you feel, or what do you think about when you are asked to list your racial or ethnic background.

 

It shouldn’t matter first of all.  When you have to write it down, I want to be like our friends and say we are human. 

 

 

Sibling 2B questions and answers

 

  1. Briefly describe your family, where you fit in among your siblings.

 

I have 6 brothers and sisters and I am number 5 in the family.

 

  1. When your family first adopted what were feelings about the adoption?  Was there excitement, fear, worry?  Please state why you felt the way you did.

 

None really 

 

  1. What were your thoughts and feelings about adopting a child of another race?

 

I didn’t care. 

 

  1. After the adoption, did you ever experience discrimination, were you every treated badly or differently, because your family had adopted.  Please give any examples if possible.

 

 No 

 

  1. Was there every any discrimination towards you or your family because the children you adopted were of another race?

 

I don’t think so

 

  1. How has your family responded to any discrimination toward your family as a result of the adoption or racial issues?  Please give examples if possible. 

 

We sometimes make our siblings play in the backyard, so they don’t get their feelings hurt by mean neighbors. 

 

  1. Have you experienced any instances where unnecessary attention, positive or negative, has been drawn to you or your family as a whole as a result of the adoption, or because your family looks “different”?  Can you give any examples of this?

 

 Yeah, they probably do.  I can’t think of any examples.    

 

  1. How has your family dealt with these instances?

 

No answer

 

  1. What were you most worried about, prior to your families adoption?  Specifically any worries dealing with racial issues.

 

Not really

 

  1. How were these sues/worries resolved after the adoption? 

 

n/a

 

  1. How have you seen the dynamics of your family, the way your family works, change as a result of your adoption?  Have these changes helped bring your family closer?  Please give examples if possible. 

 

No, my parents have to give more help to my black brother and sister because they need more help.  I don’t really think it has made us any closer.  

 

  1. Please comment on your feelings concerning the emphasis American culture puts on race.  How do you feel, or what do you think about when you are asked to list your racial or ethnic background.

 

 I like being called an Indian.